What is My Cactus?
Does my Story Matter?
How do I Create Space to Heal?
In the wild we still wander, only to wonder, In busyness souls flounder, hearts torn asunder, By wilderness we are tamed, from silence new named, In solitude we’re reclaimed, in prayer life’s reframed.
We all have had broken relationships in our past. Maybe it’s the typical struggle with an emotionally distant father. Maybe we had a “tiger mom.” Maybe a mentor or coach was always angry and demanding. I could go on.
As the election anxiety ramps up and as we begin to think more collectively as a nation, I thought it might be a good time to invite us to hug our cactus as a nation and as a planet. Although most of the content of...
We snort lines of “righteous anger.”We inject indignation and disapproval into our veins. “How could they ever do something like that? What were they thinking?” we puff as clouds of fiery anger. Like incense it rises to the true American Idol: Our Cancel Culture. You...
The country music band Midland’s debut song “Drinkin’ Problem” deals directly and in a clever way with the question is addiction a problem, a solution, or a little bit of both? This question and its answer being an important part of the hug your cactus...
Oh my gosh! I’m Anxiety. Where do I put my stuff?– Anxiety speaking about her literal baggage in “Inside Out 2” Anxiety. Just reading or writing the word makes me anxious. We are indeed the “anxious generation,” so it should come as no surprise that...
I recently went on a baseball trip to San Francisco and Oakland with a couple of friends. One of my goals is to eventually visit the stadium of all 30 MLB teams. The Oakland A’s are leaving Oakland after this season and I got to...
Watch your thoughts; they become your words.Watch your words; they become your habits.Watch your habits; they become your character.Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.–Truism from Unknown Source The following is meant to merely be an introduction to the “spirit of the twelve steps.” For,...
Creating the Room to Embrace the Ugly I have been on an extended vacation / mini sabbatical in the UK the last two plus weeks. While I have connected with friends along the way, a lot of my travel and time has been alone. For...
Be still and know that I am God.Be still and know that I am.Be still and know.Be still.Be.–Contemplative Prayer from Richard Rohr based on Psalm 46:10 We continue our cactus journey by diving deeper into this simple but beautiful formative prayer. Make sure to read...
Before you can hug your cactus you first have to admit that you have a cactus. I am sometimes asked, “does everyone have a cactus, or how do I know if I have a cactus to hug.” My answer is always “don’t worry, you do.”...
Be still and know that I am God.Be still and know that I am.Be still and know.Be still.Be. –Contemplative Prayer from Richard Rohr based on Psalm 46:10 We continue our cactus journey by diving deeper into this simple but beautiful formative prayer. Make sure to...
The hug your cactus journey is a journey of paradox, often holding two things up in tension that seem on the surface to be opposed to each other. The Meriam-Webster dictionary offers the following among its definitions for paradox. 1: one (such as a person,...
(Cub Lake in Rocky Mountain National Park) Be still and know that I am God. Be still and know that I am. Be still and know. Be still. Be. –Contemplative Prayer from Richard Rohr based on Psalm 46:10 God graciously invites us to slow down....
An entire Hug Your Cactus book that unpacks the journey of embracing the ugly parts of your soul is currently being written. Here is brief summary of that journey. Invitation To hug your cactus or to engage the cactus hugging journey begins with an invitation....
My last couple of blogs have been about remembering my mom, who I lost a little over two and a half months ago. One thing that I have noticed is that I have been a little off ever since, even out of balance. Being a...
It’s now been almost a month since I got the call that mom had died and tomorrow it will be three weeks since her celebration of life and burial. In this last month I continue to be overwhelmed by the support I have received. Cards,...
On the evening of Sunday, January 21st I received the phone call that no son wants to receive. I was getting ready to watch the Chiefs/Bills game with a close friend when my uncle (mom’s brother) called to inform me that he had found my mom,...
One of the way I plan to develop these Hug Your Cactus resources, is to show how different songs, movies, art, and other methods of storytelling relate to the cactus hugging journey. This journey is not lived out in isolation for it is both personal...
For this week’s reflection I will be taking a look at the first part of the hug your cactus journey, which is to not give up, and even find hope when life is not working due to a self-imposed crisis. We will be doing this...
The season of Lent is a season of penitence. It a journey to a cross and a time of reflection on the brokenness of the world along one’s one’s own brokenness. While the ultimate destination of this journey is Easter, the celebration of an empty...
The metaphor of “hugging the cactus” originates from a speech that the actor Robert Downey gave as he was introducing his friend Mel Gibson during an award presentation. During this time Gibson was going through some public struggles of his own and was a somewhat...
